Conversational Hypnosis: Establishing Rapport with Mirroring
Conversational hypnosis is used to persuade
and control those around you so that you can get what you
want. Not only is conversational hypnosis used so that you
get what you want, but it is also used so that other people
do not take advantage of you. Conversational hypnosis gives
you power and that leads to getting what you want.
As I have said in earlier articles, the most important
aspect of conversational hypnosis is learning the art of
developing rapport with another person. Rapport is the
ability to be “in tune” with someone subconsciously. Rapport
will enable others to have trust in you. Rapport will allow
you to gain their respect so that you can get what you want.
The concept I would now like to share with you is called
mirroring. I would like for you to go ahead and stand in
front of a mirror. Raise your right hand. Notice that when
you raise your right hand, your image in the mirror appears
to raising their left hand. Notice that the same thing
happens when you scratch your head.
Mirroring is non-verbal and allows you “mirror” another
person to develop rapport with them. Imagine sitting down
with someone you would like to develop rapport with. Perhaps
you notice that they have one leg crossed on their knee. You
can mirror their posture or crossed leg. This gives the
other person the impression that you are similar to them.
However, this impression is subconscious.
When mirroring someone it is important to do so in a manner
in which you will not get caught. If the other person
scratches their head and you scratch your head to quickly,
you might get caught. Neither of you want that to happen!
This is why mirroring is important to practice. Go ahead and
take a week to practice with friends or at a party so you
give yourself a chance to get good at it. Believe me, it
does require some practice. Mirroring someone too quickly
will get you caught and mirroring someone too late will not
help you establish rapport.
Another way to mirror someone is to mirror their breathing.
Notice the rhythm of their breathing by their rising chest
and breathe in and out when they breathe in and out. This
method will help you establish rapport with the other
person. Now, if it is unnatural to you to mirror someone
else’s breathing, then do not attempt it. You do not want to
A way in which you can mirror someone’s breathing without
changing your breathing pattern is using a technique called
cross-over mirroring. Cross-over mirroring is when you
imitate someone’s rhythm, but in a different way. If you
wanted to mirror someone’s breathing using cross-over
mirroring you could tap your finger or pen using the same
rhythm as their breathing.
In order to establish rapport through mirroring, you must
practice! Give yourself around one week to try these
techniques out on friends or strangers. Be patient and
practice and you too can master these skills to develop
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